Hey everyone,
In our investigation into Mystery Method one of the biggest questions that came up was how to handle interrupts.
The idea with interrupts is where you start a conversation with a girl and then somebody else butts in.
It could be another guy who’s interested in the girl. It could be a girlfriend. It could be a bartender asking her for a drink.
Here’s a video that we shot on handling interrupts:
The main thing when it comes to handling interrupts is to keep going.
Let me explain…
What most folks do when they are interrupted is to sort of lose their mojo, and shut down.
But that’s exactly the opposite of what you want to do.
The idea with Mystery Method is to break down what’s really going on in any pick-up situation into distinctions that can help you succeed.
In the case of interrupts it turns out to be psychologically “normal” to go quiet, or even wander off once the flow of conversation is diverted or stymied.
But it actually turns out to be a great opportunity to demonstrate higher value when somebody else interrupts!
That’s because most girls are so used to folks “shutting down” when they get interrupted that you can actually distinguish yourself by keeping up the flow of conversation.
Here’s one perspective:
One of the things that Mystery realized through all of his testing is that if you interrupt the person who’s interrupting you, that you can actually gain a totally unfair advantage in the conversation.
For on thing they may just shut down and stand there like a statue, or just go wonder off.
More often than not that’s the case.
Or if the person you interrupt hangs in there, you may actually gain an ally in winning over the girl you were targeting in the first place!
That’s because by engaging in the conversation at hand you’re actually totally distinguishing yourself from what most people would do!
That’s not to say that you want to be obnoxious. Though you’re almost certainly better off risking offending somebody than skulking off or shutting down.
One of the things Mystery is fond of saying is: “Aaaaaand back to me.” in a playful and funny way.
This is a way that you can generate light hearted fun in a “cocky funny” way were you’re showing off your confidence and your sense of humor at the same time.
It’s all happening,
Mike Long